In order to manifest what you desire, put it out to The Universe/God, and then detach and LET IT GO. This is a cosmic truth that I struggle with, and was written by several spiritual success educators – including Jesus and The Buddha. I want my coaching business to be successful, but how can I let go of a desire that means so much to me?
This is where I see my five-year-old daughter, Sofie, (and many children like her) as a guide. She desires things all the time: more dolls, dessert before dinner, extra attention, one more cartoon, another play date, etc. But reality, in the form of her disciplining parents, seems to say a resounding “no” to many of these desires. We tell her impatiently, “You already have… so & so… or you can’t have…so & so… so please find something else to do!” She whines, she pouts, she allows herself to express her feelings in reaction to these rejections. But fifteen minutes later I see her playing with other toys, reading or doing some other activity in total engagement – almost forgetful of the exchange that left her wants empty-handed. She detaches every single time.
But does that mean she’s a depressed child who never gets what she wants? Quite the contrary, when I look at her brief life, she has friends beyond measure and is always meeting new ones; she has many books and toys to play with (including cardboard boxes and sofa cushions); she eats well, including nice desserts; she enjoys watching TV with her parents; and overall she laughs and plays several times a day. She trusts the Universe, lets go, and still gets to live a very happy life. You may think it’s because we spoil her more than we say no, but I believe she intuitively knows to follow her inner nudging to play and find enjoyment.
A few months ago, we were depressed when Sofie was rejected by a top private school and became worried about her future education. As we read the rejection letter, she was playing in the yard, completely unaware of what we perceived as a terrible occurrence. She said she wanted to remain in her current school anyway. Then earlier this week she seemed to receive class homework without instructions. When we asked her kindergarten teacher for clarification, she told us, “Oh no, that wasn’t class homework. It’s just that Sofie is so advanced in her learning that I wanted to give her some extra words because her reading ability is off the charts.” Our five-year-old daughter detached when her parents couldn’t, but she is showing us that she is getting a good education, even in the face of the resounding “no.”
Writing from my core,